Narcissism

People are selfish beings and that’s a fact that can’t be changed. Most people will think about themselves first rather than others. There’s always people that will complain about the little things in their life and turn it into the biggest problem ever when really it isn’t.

I really dislike it when I try to talk about my problem to my friend and all they care about is their problem(s). My ex housemate at university was like that. She never cared about anyone else, all she ever cared about was herself and her “large” amount of coursework.

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Tiff Reply:
February 4th, 2011 at 12:31 pm

Yikes, that is ridiculous. It bugs me when people think they try to compete with you too about who has it worst..whooooo caresssss? Sheesh, why are people so competitive these days? What happened to working together to making a better tomorrow? Sigh. Selfish by nature, we’re all born that way, it’s just some of us have a higher thought process & feel that we should help others too.

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I think that what people don’t realise is that they are selfish. We all think a little bit along the lines of “why are all these stupid people complaining” when in reality we might have done the same. I think that when it comes to people having a right to opinion and expression of feeling, we need to take into account other people as well, and sometimes the fact that it is often our fault that things have come down on us.

I read a lot of ‘woe is me’ blogs, in particular of this one girl who keeps dwelling on the same shit every year. She’s had a blog for two years or so and every Valentine’s day she’s complaining about this incident that happened several years ago. It’s all well and good for her to write about it on her blog, but I don’t know what she’s expecting. If she wants sympathy and help then I think she’s going to have to help herself.

It is one thing for people to be selfish and not give anything in return, not even a word of thanks, when someone helps them out or gives them a shoulder to cry on. But it is another thing to start complaining to the word expecting something. In a way it is worse. Humans are naturally selfish beings and often we will care so much about ourselves but won’t even look for those around us who need help, whether they are there or not. But to act in a way as to draw attention to yourself for others’ attention or sympathy is just putting yourself out there more as a pathetic stupid douchebag.

This is a world in which people all have feelings and emotions. We are free to speak opinions and it is wrong to bash down other people’s views; it is also wrong to completely ignore the feelings of the people around us especially when they might have helped you at some point in your life. That is why such a thing as friends in inverted commas exists.

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Ahh, I kinda wrote a blog bitching about my friends but was nothing major, I wouldn’t really say it was bitching. I was just fed up them making no time to meet up. I dont like to talk too much about my life on my blog since its a resource site, and people dont want to read a load of crap of mine which means nothing to them.

I know the feeling, some just say things to me just to shut me up.
I know deep down two really are there for me 100% because they dont judge, laugh and give me ways to feel better and get out of a situation.

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Tiff Reply:
February 4th, 2011 at 12:40 pm

Oh Lisa, I read that blog & you weren’t bitching, some people are selfish a-holes & you didn’t call anyone out specifically about who you didn’t like (lots of people do that, really odd, I know). Besides, you didn’t make it seem like it was the worst thing in the world, people are selfish & they put themselves first. You had every right to talk about how you realized who your true friends are. Most people just rant & rant & rant.

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I’m definitely guilty of being a little self centered. I know I don’t have a bad life, I have a mother who loves me, 2 little sisters who look up to me, and a boyfriend who supports me. But I also have problems and struggle with depression. I guess it doesn’t always matter how great your life is right now, it’s the past that haunts you. We also have to remember that what we have in our life is sometimes beyond our control, and we’re entitled to feel bad about what we have/don’t have. People don’t realize how good they have it, until they don’t have it anymore. It’s sad, but it’s true.

However the people you described are quite annoying. I don’t like people who throw a fit when something doesn’t go their own way, or hate on their parents cause they don’t give them EVERYTHING they want. Parents like those is the kind of parent I want to be. I don’t want to spoil my kid so bad that they feel that they deserve the world handed to them.

I would never write on a public blog about a friend or significant other in a hateful way. Heck I probably wouldn’t do it privately either. People always have a way of finding things out, and they’d be extremely hurt I’m sure.

I’m a tad bit guilty of talking about myself a bit to much when friends come to me. But I don’t ever intend on it as me ignoring their problems. I try to tell them about a situation I had that was similar to what they’re going through and how I dealt with it. But I guess you’re right. I should probably do more listening to the person. I know I get quite annoyed when I try to talk about my feelings and I’m just dismissed.

As for your comment; My boss privately owns our McDonald’s, so it’s even worse. He’s so greedy, and cares more about making money then his employees. Which actually hurts his business. If he treated his people with respect, then he’d have experienced employees who know how to do their job, and get their service time and a great customer experience. But no, he treats people like crap so bad that they quit and he has to hire new people every week. Who don’t know what they’re doing and the service just sucks.

I watched the video on my camera after I recorded it and it looked fine on there. But when I uploaded it, I noticed that it was rather dark. So for the next videos I moved to the Living Room and recorded them during the day with lots of light. So hopefully they look better, if you get a chance to view the newer ones, let me know how they look for you?

Caleb and I celebrated our 5 months yesterday =) Our relationship is going great. I love having a best friend as boyfriend. He always know when I’m hiding something, which helps for trusting. Cause he never has to doubt me and anything I say. And he always knows when something is bothering me and encourages me to talk to him, rather then ignore it cause I’m not speaking up. It’s a great relationship and I’ve never been happier.

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I completely agree with this entire blog. The end took a turn that I didn’t see coming kinda defending this people, unless I am mistaken. I also think that everyone knows someone in real life that does this. For example, my friend does this, complete and total drama queen saying, oh my life sucks because of this little tiny problem. How about you GET UP, fix the problem and move the F on.

P.S- Thanks for the comment, panic attacks do suck lol. And doing security for the Jane Goodall thing wasn’t all that great since I didn’t even get to see her or talk to her lol too busy making sure people weren’t being stupid

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Tiff Reply:
February 4th, 2011 at 12:35 pm

Oh no! I wouldn’t defend these people, haha, I only want to tell them they shouldn’t be so self-centered. It drives people crazy when all they talk about is themselves so hopefully the self-centered people that actually do stumble across this blog might think twice about how they treat their friends.

Aw it’s too bad you didn’t get to see Jane Goodall though. I don’t have any of her books, probably should, but I watched her documentary on the Chimpanzees in my Physical Anthro class. Loved it. They’re such clever creatures! & when they were affected by Polio because a nearby village had it, oh goodness, that broke my heart.

But YES I agree, GTU & MOVE YO BUTT if you want to fix things. You can’t just sit on your bum wishing & hoping things will get better. Very proactive of you, Josh!

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Tiffany! This is such a great blog and completely agree, I see so many blogs (sometimes even my own) that are like oh woe is me when so many others have it so much worse off than myself, and especially reporting it like it’s the worst thing in the world! I hate that as well, when you write something and people don’t empathize but instea relate it back to them, haha! I’m really glad you wrote this! It makes me think that my own problems aren’t so big, it’s really important to remember that so I’m glad you brought it up! How are YOU by the way haha and in response to your last comment on my blog I definitely understood your rambling- I always type outloud too haha I switched to google chrome, definitely better! I hope my font is a little better now!

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First of all, glad your site is working and I hope you do not have any more problems with your new host.

I agree with you but like you said we are only human. It is only natural for us to “feel sorry” for ourselves over stuff that really should not matter. I think I talked about this before on your blogs. I do think it is because of the society we live in. Our society values stuff like Ipods, phones and stuff like that. In our society we cannot live without it. However if we were put in Sudan (which is in the process of getting their referendum *yay!*) than the we would have another approach on life. To be honest I think a lot of people have to “experience” it before they truly understand it.

And you are right, when people have their ipods break or something silly like that, I never know what to say. Do I say “I am sorry?” Although I am not really sorry because I think it is silly. However blogging is different for everyone. Some people are blog about their days and some people (like you) blog about feelings toward humanity. I guess it just depends who you are.

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Tiff Reply:
February 13th, 2011 at 9:09 pm

Well no, it’s one thing to be upset because your mom won’t get you a new iPod because you broke yours, but it’s another thing to make it seem like it’s just the worst situation in the world & you think everyone else’s problems are nothing in comparison to yours. That’s what I’m talking about, the selfishness & what not. Plus blogs & Twitter have turned this generation into an, “it’s all about me” generation..as if our every thought is somehow relevant. Hey, I have a blog so I’m guilty of this, but at least I don’t blog about what I did today.

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Little Tiffany Reply:
February 14th, 2011 at 9:06 pm

I think it depends what kind of blog you have though. Some people want to just rant about their days, I know my friends and I use tumblr for that. haha That is why I don’t rant about my days on here lol I think it is human nature we make it seem like we are in the worst situation. However we can’t really do anything because people will blog what they want to blog. I remember when I was younger I blogged stupid stuff. Maybe some people just need to mature too.

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Great post, Tiff. I often feel the same way when I see blogs like that. But then again, when you’re having a bad day, and you vent to someone the least you want is to be judged, which happens all the time. I’ve always tried just to listen to people, and because of this I have people coming to me all the time for a shoulder to cry on. Haha, but I’m glad to know that I’m helpful to people.
By the way, thank you so much for the tips on my site! Haha, my site was in no way done being coded- it was all kind of temorary fixes until I could get my content up. (: I’ll definitely try to take your suggestions into consideration before I open my site for real.

So how are you? It’s been awhile. (:

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Karlee Reply:
February 5th, 2011 at 1:03 pm

wow, that post had all of my old site’s settings (url, email) this one has my new site’s settings, just in case you need them.

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Tiff Reply:
February 5th, 2011 at 2:15 pm

Haha it’s totally cool, I just went back & fixed it. Glad I could be of some help. I need to make my font for this comment box bigger, it’s kind of irritating me now haha. Damn, you just never notice it until now. :/

Aww how cute. I’m really glad when my friends can come to me with their problems because it means they trust me with it. Hopefully when you’re troubled, you’ll be able to ask them for their shoulder to cry on without them ignoring you.

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I think the whole bratty and selfish attitude is just a part of growing up, because many people go throuh a phase like that. But I also think a lot people get that attitude from home and their childhood, because they were raised that way and got used to it, causing them to just … expect it.

I don’t really get mad or upset if not many people comment me. I do, however, freak out/get scared when I get more comments than I’ve had (like right now, the count is growing), but only because I feel like I am going to get overwhelmed and upset that many more people if I accidentally miss their comment and they don’t receive a reply.

I used to put others before myself 100 percent of the time, so I don’t do it anymore. I used to have friends would tell me that their life sucks and that the world is against them, and I merely listened because I knew that that was what they wanted. I never told them about my life, or what I was going through. It was simply high school, and I thought that, if I’d kept everything my little secret, that it would go away. It never did, but I did end up moving out of my mom’s house.

Living with my dad and getting away from my abusive stepfather taught me that it is okay to woryy about – and focus on – yourself, too. Not to the point that you are conceited, but enough to know what is going on and enough to know whether the way you are currently being treated in a specific relationship/situation is right or wrong, no matter how much worse it could be.

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I was talking about the little personality tests and such; I don’t know anything about the real ones, if there are real ones? If so, I think that that is the kind that you were talking about. LOL

I don’t play FarmVille too much. I used to play it religiously, but I hardly ever now. I just got back into the habit, and school is going just fine. FarmVille relaxes me.

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Tiff Reply:
February 13th, 2011 at 9:06 pm

I don’t get mad or upset when people don’t comment me either, it’s just annoying when someone leaves you a comment that has 2 somewhat related blog comments & 2 paragraphs of a comment related to their life that’s irrelevant.

I think you were the one that asked me about pepper spray.. right? It’s real….haven’t you ever read the news in which there’s a crowd that’s protesting something & then some people get maced? That’s pepper spray: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pepper_spray

Made out of chemicals (from peppers) that irritate the eyes. Also, it’s recommended for most girls to have it if they work late if you’ve ever had a Protect Yourself Against Rape seminar before, which pops up in every school.

But anyway, yes…there is an actual psychological personality test called the Myers-Briggs personality type test that you can take online for free or pay for the authentic one. If you take a psychology class, they normally make you take one.

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Oooh, wow. That was kind of really long. Sorry.

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HEY TIFF D: So sorry for not commenting in so long. Things have been pretty hectic lately. I know it’s not an excuse, I’m just a total fail when it comes to time management. How’s everything going with you?

I feel the same way about people who complain about the most trivial things. I know some people who do it for fun, like in a joking manner, but when people seriously think that a problem that is supposedly trivial is like the end of the world to them, it just makes you realize how bigoted people can be sometimes.

I’ve witnessed lots of situations where someone pours their heart out to someone only to have them interrupt with their own problems. I have personally associated myself with people like that. I don’t think I’ve ever had a friend that I could truly rely on when it comes to serious matters. They’re either too selfish to care or they give the least comforting responses. There was this one time when I told a friend of mine that my grandmother had just passed away and she was like, “Oh, really?” and that was it. Eventually, I just couldn’t be bothered to share anything with friends anymore.

I’ve always been the listener in relationships and I do try my best to empathize with people but usually people just complain to me about the most ridiculous things. It’s especially frustrating when I have extremely life shattering things going on and someone keeps ranting to me about something trivial and claims it’s the ‘worst day of their life’. It’s sort of like someone with the flu complaining about how horrible their life is to someone who has cancer. But if someone does have truly serious problems, I always try my best to hear them out and comfort them.

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Tiff Reply:
February 11th, 2011 at 10:25 pm

Haaaaay gurl haaaay. It’s okay!! I’m a bit stressed out because of school, but it’s no big deal, it’s my own doing as I procrastinate too much. Yikes. But anyway, being busy IS AN EXCUSE, don’t even worry about it. I haven’t been around much lately either. I need to get my priorities straight & that means less time on here, more time reading for classes. I hope you’re doing well though & keeping up with your school work.

TRUE TRUE TRUE. People who just make trivial problems seem like the end of the world to them is just..absurd. I mean if it’s not life or death or immediate pain, why is it like the end of the world for them again? I don’t know. I can sympathize with people who dumped their significant other or the other way around, but when they sit there & start talking about how their world is over, blah blah blah & they’re only 18, I want to kick them in the shin really hard. First of all, they’re only 18. Secondly of all, if this person was “the one”, they wouldn’t have left. Thirdly, if this person was “the one”, lost his/her way, they’ll find a way back to them. Fourthly, WTF YOU’RE 18, GET OVER IT, YOU’LL FIND SOMEONE NEW, DON’T YOU HAVE OTHER THINGS TO DO WITH YOUR LIFE OTHER THAN YOUR SIGNIFICANT OTHER?!?!?!?

But yeah, that’s just my opinion, doesn’t mean I’m right.

Oh Rainie, I want to hug you. I know EXACTLY how you feel, okay maybe not exactly because I’ve never walked a day in your shoes before, but it is SO frustrating when you’re trying to have a heart-to-heart with someone, but they only want to talk about their problems. I TOO stopped sharing my problems with this “friend” of mine because of this exact thing. I’ve always been the one to listen too & give advice at the end, but it’s not like people ever listen to good advice, you know? They always do what they want to do until they make their own mistakes & learn. But if anything, you can always e-mail me about your problems & I’ll say more than, “oh, really?” wth @ your friend. Your grandma passed away, she should’ve been more compassionate than that!! I’m so sorry for your loss though, my condolences.

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I am so glad that you put this line:
“Why do people even bother leaving a comment on your blog when it consists of 2 sentences about what you wrote & 2 paragraphs about their life?”
It is a pet hate of mine, when people come to your blog just to return a comment. Yes, I return all comments, but I will read the persons blog, reply to it and then do a subnote at the bottom answering the comment they left on my blog.

Also, you shouldn’t belittle your problems just because someone has it worse. If you have a problem, you have the right to bitch and moan about it.

Another point that really stood out to me was: “Your iPod broke & you think you deserve a new one, but your mom won’t get you one so she’s a witch–oh no, your life is so tough.” because someone I know has been complaining about their Dad not doing anything with his day now that he is retired while she is working hard to make a career. The guy probably deserves a rest, he was worked for 30+ years and he is doing her a favour by letting her move back in while she gets her finances sorted.

In reply to the comment you left on my blog:
I do not drink all that much soda anyhow, I tend to have a mouthful now and again when I have a dry mouth but rarely actually get a glass of the stuff. As for changing tea for coffee to reduce calories, the only tea I drink is green tea and to my knowledge that is 0 calories or very close to being 0 calories.

Finally, sorry for confusing you with my weight measurements. Stones is the “parent” of pounds in the same way that a kilogram is the “parent” of a gram. There are 14 pounds in 1 stone, I just tend to say 8 stone rather than 112 pounds because I find it easier to type, say and the small the number the lighter you feel

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Tiff Reply:
February 11th, 2011 at 10:16 pm

That’s a bit over the top, her dad is retired & she’s complaining about her dad not doing anything with his day…? What … is she serious? When you’re retired, you can do absolutely nothing at all & effin’ enjoy life!!! Hell, if I were retired, I’d be knitting all day or gardening! That’s pretty much nothing at all. Sheeesh, or travel the world, but I mean, not everyone has that kind of luxury. Girl needs to calm down on that.

But the thing is, my problems are problems, sure, but to someone else, they’re not. What I’m trying to say is: I’m tired of the petty pity blogs people write. Sure if something happens to you, you have a right to be upset about it, but it’s inappropriate to make it seem like it’s just the worst thing in the world when said hypothetical person will get over it in a week or two. It’s just a bit outrageous, there are worse things that can happen & people bitch/complain/whine/moan/dwell/make a big deal out of nothing way too much. Besides, belittling my problems helps me move on to do better things with my time rather than contemplate how horrrribleeee my life is which it is not.

TY for clearing up that dealio with the measurements! Now I have another term under my belt.

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Oh my gosh, I know exactly how that feels. My friends are all immature & are basically called “whores” by everyone that knows them. I almost feel sorry for them, though that is not why I am their friend. I love them for the side I got to know them for, but nowadays, it’s like all they do is lie to me & complain about everything just like you said ‘OMG MY MOM WON’T LET ME GO DOWNTOWN ON FRIDAY, SHE IS SUCH A BITCH OMG’. Seriously? I’m contemplating even talking to her about why she isn’t allowed but I know if I explain that it is HER fault she will just call me out and tell me how much of a bad friend I am because I am siding with her mother.

Speaking of which, my so called ‘best friend’ got sent an hour away to live with her grandmother because she got into trouble with the police back here. On Friday, she calls me up saying she will pay me for the gas if I pick her up and take her back on Sunday. I said ‘Oh, sure!’ and I hop in my car and drive an hour to her house. I get lost and I pull over to call her, she doesn’t answer so I call again, she tells me her mom nor her grandmother will let her go. At this point I am PISSED because all the gas and time I wasted. I told her she is acting as if she were 12 years old again + I will never do anything like that for her again because I know for a fact that if I asked her she wouldn’t have done it for me.

sorry for that long like rant comment, I just really needed to get it off my back and your blog really hit the spot in my mind about it. I’m really starting to dislike my ‘friends’, i’m mentally too old for them.

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Tiff Reply:
February 13th, 2011 at 8:51 pm

haha girl just let it all out. That’s absolutely ridiculous that your friend actually called you to ask you to pick her up when it’s her fault that she got into trouble with the police & it’s her punishment. You could’ve just let her sit there & suffer haha, but jeez you had your own suffering when she pretty much told you that you drove & got lost for nothing. I hope she paid you back for gas. It’s okay, Amber, I know how you feel about being mentally too old for some of your friends. I feel that way all the time & it bothers me so much because I still have so much to learn & hanging out with 30 year olds is nice & all, but they still think you’re a kid when you’re 9 years their junior. :/ Oh well, you live & you learn. Hopefully you’ll just find some new friends that aren’t as childish.

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I can really relate to you with the last few paragraphs…well actually I can relate to you with all of this.

The first point about how there are some people worse off than us, well I think about it a lot. Sometimes I can go into these depression moods but easily snap out of it once I think how lucky I am because my problems are nothing compared to those without even a warm bed. I should be happy and I am happy and very lucky.

There are some personal things that I could relate to this blog, again like I said about the last bit. I’m one of those people who stays quite and keeps things bottled up until eventually I either breakdown in some way…or I don’t know.

I always love reading your blogs – there is something I can relate to as well as things that make me think. Some of these ‘and this is how my day went’ blogs bore me. My own blogs bore me but I’m learning I basically want people to think about whatever strong subject I am thinking of, I’m not a very strong person in real life so being like it online would at least be a step up.

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Tiff Reply:
February 13th, 2011 at 8:47 pm

Aw thanks Lucy, I don’t think you’ll get this reply since your website has been down for a while, but I’ll reply here & tell you that I did when it comes back up eventually.

You don’t have to keep your feelings bottled up, girly. You can definitely vent it to a friend, but if they’re not there for you & just want to talk about their own problems, you could start your own secret journal/diary OFFline either within Word or on paper, is up to you. It really helps. I keep one because I want to be able to look back on how I once felt about something. Plus, it helps me grow & think differently which is really interesting.

If you’re ever stuck on a subject, you can always try to do one of those 30 day blogging challenges!

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I used to be one of those people who thought their life sucked, but I’ve come to realize over the years that I’m very lucky and privileged. I’ve read a few blogs before where someone was whining about how unfair their life was and all that crap. I’m so whiny sometimes, but I always remind myself of the hardships of others before I make to big of a deal out of it.

I think some people just need to be told straightforwardly to get over it. :/

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Tiff Reply:
February 11th, 2011 at 7:58 pm

HAHAH RIGHT? I think so too, but it’s not to be insensitive, it’s just to slap someone back into reality. When people really make it such a huge deal that their life is just sooooooooo bad & that nothing is worse than this blah blah blah, omgoodness, you can only feel for them so much until you tell them, “LISTEN, BITCH, YOUR LIFE IS NOT THAT BAD. IS U STARVIN? NO. DO U HAS A HOME? YES. DO U HAS TEH INTERWEBZ? YES. DO U HAS FOOD IN FRIDGE? YES. THEN STFU.”

But it’s okay, it’s not like we’re not allowed to feel sorry for ourselves, it’s just we shouldn’t be saying that our lives are just soo miserable & that no one has it worse than us or make huge deals out of nothing. Just have to remember what we have & not what we don’t or else we’d all be miserable.

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I, 90% agree with this blog. I don’t really feel like one person’s problems shouldn’t be important just because someone else is worse off. When it’s the case of ‘my mom won’t buy me an ipod i hate my life’ vs. ‘my husband beats me everynight’, yes that is understandable & it’s clear that one is obviously a lot worse than the other… but I mean for bigger term things, emotional pain, family troubles, etc… just because someone else has it worse, doesn’t mean that we still don’t feel our own pain.

I know what you mean about wanting to vent, and someone just not really helping at all.. only giving advice you don’t want to hear, or didn’t even really ask for. It does get annoying, but I guess sometimes we just give advice anyways because we want to help our friends in tough situations. I always try to listen to people when they need it the most, especially for the ones who do the same for me.

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Tiff Reply:
February 13th, 2011 at 9:13 pm

I think you misunderstood my point. My point is that people often talk about their problems as if it’s the worst thing in the world & no one can top it. That’s my point, I never said that just because someone else has it worse doesn’t mean you can’t feel sorry for yourself. That’s absurd. I’m trying to get people to look on the bright side of things instead of constantly grumbling over stupid crap like their iPods breaking when they should be thankful they even have the money to purchase one in the first place….most people can hardly even afford to have food in the fridge. No need to make it a huge spectacle that your iPod broke & that it’s the biggest deal in the world.

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Before I leave my comment, I want to thank you for your previous comments on my site. I’ve never gotten a comment from you that didn’t either help me, or teach me something (:
I understand what you are saying about people who like to blog like they have the worst life ever. I do find it annoying when they have those, like you said, “woe is me” posts; especially if I just blogged about something like being at the hospital with my mom. It’s really hard to judge where people are coming from by just reading text on their site though. It’s like text messaging, you can only see the emotion if they tell you. Some people are really that superficial, and into themselves. However, there are also people who just really don’t know how to handle anything, so their little drama is a big deal to them. Either way though, I agree, it just seems really petty. How can they actually post “I hate my life, [insert insignificant drama here]?” I would be embarrassed to write that, because I have personally been through much worst. But, you never know, for them it may be a big deal, and so I just treat it as a big deal and comment accordingly xD
In the end, even if they are wrong, that’s the beauty of the internet: they can post what they want and vent to strangers. And you can always comment your opinion about their post along the lines of “I hope you can deal with what you are going through…” and insert your fabulous words of wisdom.
In terms of you, ma’am, don’t be too hard on yourself. Even if you blogged about feeling down or upset or mad at someone, that doesn’t make you selfish. You posted on your blog. If you can’t post on your site, or talk to the people in your life, who can you talk to? As far as I’ve seen, you’ve never had a post that “[made] it seem like your problems are so horrendous that it puts a victim of genocide to shame.” You post what you want on your blog, and if you felt it was a meaningless post, you post that on your next one lol
Oh the awkwardness of having your online and offline worlds collide. I plan to move my blog to my other site. I’m also going to stop linking up all my social networks. *mental note*
That’s why I blog anyway, to vent. Sometimes, you really can’t talk to the people physically close to you because, ironically, they are just like the bloggers you mentioned above.
I had a bit more to say, but I don’t want to over-post, sorry if this is already too long! Your posts always bring out my essay writing

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Tiff Reply:
February 11th, 2011 at 7:52 pm

Ah I really appreciate your long comment because to me, it means that my post invoked something within you that allowed you to speak your mind & opinion.

I absolutely agree with you & it is true that we don’t know where they’re coming from most of the time because, like you said, it’s just text. However, haha like we both said, most of the time it is just really petty insignificant drama that people vent about making it seem like the end of the world. It’s not the end of the world!! People have it much worse & I don’t really comment on the blogs that I stumble across with those, “OFMA LSKDFL;ASJ I HATE MY LIFE BECAUSE MY MOM WON’T GET ME THAT XYZ THING THAT I WANTED. WTF!11111!!!!” blogs because..I’m almost 95% sure that they’ll just return your comment & skip your blog, won’t take the time to get to know you, & further complain about their mom. Major sigh.

But for me, I wrote this in before I edited it out (didn’t want to make my blog too long as it was already essay long haha), that sometimes you shouldn’t vent about your offline friends online because they’ll somehow find it. Plus, if you want to vent, you should just write it in private. I have a private journal that I type in, it has a password on it so it’s not like someone can just open up the file & read my thoughts, but I do have one. It helps, I haven’t written in it in a while, but I really need to again because I kind of want it to be a documentary of my life, my thoughts, only for me to read. So I can read & watch my mentality grow over the years. haha, versus a blog in which you always have to censor yourself. I mean someone could get crazy on you & try to sue you for slander or something, which is why if you have something horrible to say about someone specifically, just vent about it in private in your journal or to a trusted friend. If you don’t have a trusted friend, you can always vent anonymously about it on my forum or to me even! haha

Anyway, I was also going to write another post later on about not being ashamed of your website. I mean if you are, why do it, right? haha. But ANYWAY,…yeah thanks for the lengthy comment though, I really did appreciate reading it.

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Wow, this was such a great post! And very true. Sometimes, I feel like I have it the worst and most of the time it’s because people make me feel like it by shoving their “greatness” in my face when I am down.

Also, I had a friend who would give me advice for everything we talked about. It was annoying. I would simply say something like, “My class is boring” and he would be like “Maybe you should switch and find a new one.” We would get in tons of fights, he also made his life seem soo much better than mine.

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Tiff Reply:
February 11th, 2011 at 7:31 pm

I can see how that can be annoying, but always look on the bright side of things, even when it’s difficult to because you don’t have it the worst. When you feel like nothing could be worse than whatever situation you are in right now, just think about someone else on the other side of the world who doesn’t even have a roof over their head & begs for food everyday. It helps you bring yourself back to the reality that you are much luckier than a good portion of the world, even if something horrible to you happened (someone you love died, failed an exam, got into an accident, etc). There’s no shame in being able to vent to someone, but always recollect your thoughts & remember that things could be so much worse.

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